Has he lost interest?

My husband of 8 years is less and less attentive and our life is dwindling. I've tried everything - slinky outfits, cooking dinner, talking to him about how I feel and how frustrated I am with a lack of intimacy and affection, apart from a peck at bedtime and when we go to work in the morning. He tells me to be patient. I've tried to be spontaneous, such as jump into the shower with him, but he tells me he's finished showering and leaves. I tell him to come swimming with me, but he says he's tired. In the evenings just stays in front of the television. I threw out my y bits and pieces because he's just ignoring me. He says he loves me. I know he's busy with his work, but surely he needs to make time for US? I just dont know what to do with him any more and I'm getting unhappier each week pes with no intimate moments. Any advice? (sensible stuff only please!)