Is this mean? Am I wrong?

Well, I have an uncle who has cancer, 40-ish. He was somewhat evil towards me, in earlier postings you can see they are most about his behavior. He would always cook for the holidays, but would make me feel unwelcome, or go off on me if I fixed a plate. Well now he has some sort of cancer, and I feel really bad for him, but we've always had riff between each other. He's closer to my sister than me, and that has always made me feel bad. That he has something against me for no reason. When my sister had her second child, he came to the hospital to see her. When I had my first, he wasn't there. When I had my second, I was completely alone with the exception of my mother. To make a long story short, I was in the hospital for 2 weeks after delivering my second son early, and my son died in childbirth. I almost died in childbirth from losing a lot of blood. They wouldn't even let my mom in the room with me, after she got dressed in scrubs. During that whole time, my dad didn't call me once, my stepmom didn't call, my uncle didn't call. The only person who was there was my sister, my mom, my baby, and my baby's paternal grandma that wasn't even related to this baby. I was completely hurt that my own dad didn't call or show up, no card no nothing, and same for my uncle. Now he was in the hospital. I didn't call him or visit him, but I did send out a short text telling him to stay in good spirits, and that I loved him. Was I wrong, or is my actions justified?